Dating a guy who has been married twice
Another reader – who was attempting to shoot down my assertion that you should ideally wait 2-3 years before getting engaged – sent me a link to a super-informative article.“The fact of a couple moving quickly toward marriage is not in and of itself a problem as much as what is driving the speed.Would you want to know if your future husband was an alcoholic, or has genital herpes, or has fought anxiety, on and off, for 10 years? So if we’ve established that the criteria for telling a secret is the secret’s ability to impact a relationship in the future, the question remains: do you say something? If it’s a health thing, like STD’s, you have to come clean right away.But if it’s something that is deep in your past, doesn’t impact you today, but is something you would want to know about your partner, I’d hold onto it until you’re sure that the confession would I told my wife about my past anxiety within the first 2 months.When you are in the infant stages of dating, this may not seem like a big deal to you, but gradually this will become more and more apparent.
On the whole, remarriage is on the rise – four in ten new marriages include at least one partner who has been married before, according to a recent Pew Research Center report.
By the same token, if one party is really delaying marriage (going beyond 4 years), then it’s not a matter of being cautious, it’s a sign that he/she doesn’t really want to get married.
Other useful takeaways: •Happily married couples shared many traits, including courtships that progressed smoothly toward marriage with little drama; their courtships had a quiet, romantic feeling, but as important, they sensed they were marrying someone who could be a good friend.
Most people who date a divorced man ALWAYS ignore the basic facts and think that just because you've “fallen in love” everything will be all sunshine and rainbows.
The truth is dating a divorced man is not a picnic.