Single woman dating divorced man kids
Let me first say that I'm not a relationship expert. I’m nothing more than a dad who has walked an interesting path on my way to raising two wonderful kids.
I’ve had some real life experiences regarding this topic and I've learned somehow to navigate my way through the circumstances.
The dating and relationship advice that I tried to find online wasn’t very helpful–for my situation anyway.
There were very few resources out there that spoke to the specific experiences or challenges that I was going through as a woman in a pre-committed (dating but exclusive) relationship with a divorced dad.
But what happens after you read the books cover to cover?And even the advice I found on relationship forums from other women who have been on this journey was extremely varied at best (and vindictive at worst).I wanted to talk with my peers but my friends couldn’t relate; they were all dating never-married guys with no kids or had hard-lined opinions about dating a divorcee.There are also divorced guys who have never had kids. I find that a divorced guy, who has his own kids has a certain ease around children. He might end up really hitting it off with your kids. Is his breakup any less significant because he wasn’t legally hitched? Again, I’m not bashing the guy who has never been married. He could have always wanted to commit and just never found the right person. But the bottom line is, I shouldn’t be defining who someone is based on whether or not they have ever worn a wedding ring. Maybe divorced or never been married should be treated like a category, a checkbox, just like age group, gender, race or religion.If you are dating someone who hasn’t been around kids much, they might not enjoy it. Or, he might fall madly in love with your kids and realize they want more. Or, maybe he committed (got engaged) and then the girl broke it off. All I’m saying is, the divorced guy proved he had the ability and the willingness to complete and utter monogamy (Then again, he could have been a huge cheater in the marriage.) Plus, maybe he never wants to commit again. The guy who never made that commitment in the first place doesn’t really get it (the commitment, I mean.) Not that that’s a bad thing. Everyone has a different story, and a reason why he ended up divorced or never married. I wish they had a checkbox for the things that really mean the most, like, “Are you going to love me unconditionally? ” and “Will you always cause my heart to beat fast when you walk into a room?